Things I find amusing or cute.
We always have to worry about whether or not a guy “likes black girls.” always, With white men, Asian men, Black men, or any other kind of men, that’s always something we’re forced to take into consideration. It’s so disheartening navigating the dating world as a black woman (cis, trans or otherwise) no matter how attractive you are.
and then when you do find the guys who are, you have to worry about fetishization and constantly checking them about their misogyny.
The phrases I always hear from the guys I date, which are mostly black men tbh are: “I’ve never dated a black woman before, but I like you because you’re not like the ghetto/ratchet girls.” ”I love that you don’t wear those gross weaves and stuff” “Yeah you’re black but you don’t really act black” “You’re kind of like a black white girl”
Like these are supposed to be compliments! Like they expect me to gush about this gross ass shit. It’s so exhausting, so damn exhausting and I have given up hope.
You can’t help loneliness. Because there will be times when know that you have friends and family who care but you just can’t bring yourself to reach out to a single one of them. Because you’re lonely.
And you’ll tell them later about it. And they’ll go,”Why didn’t you call? You could have called.”
But you just don’t know how to explain that sort of loneliness that had you completely convinced that you were utterly alone. -Yagazie
If you think all Black people’s blogs are “social justice” blogs, you’re racist.
I read some newspaper article recently that pretty much summed up Tumblr and the responses to it this way—privileged people who come here are shocked to see marginalized people talking about their experiences, so they think everyone’s just obsessed with social justice, rather than talking about their own lives.
After following this Ferguson protest the past week over multiple social media platforms and mainstream media I’d like to think I’ve gotten a good grasp on what’s going on. What I’m having trouble understanding is why people are so adamant about this Mike Brown case not being a racial thing but a “thug” thing (another post another day on what a highly racialized word that has become). “If it were the opposite (black cop executing white kid) there’d be no coverage.” Well you’re right. Because the officer would be fired and/or tried, not on a paid leave. We’ve seen it time and time again. The reaction in Ferguson is just the straw that broke the camels back. What the people want is justice, an arrest, an apology, something! 5 police related deaths (all victims unarmed) in the span of a month, but its just a coincidence that the deceased are on the darker side of the melanin spectrum. And it’s their fault, naturally, for being threatening or exhibiting typical “thug” behavior… America really needs to learn to separate the institution of whiteness from white people. It’s not about you as an individual, its the system of privilege that’s in place. You’re tired of hearing about it, sorry. You grew up colorblind, good for you. I have always been hyper aware of my complexion and what I can and cannot do to be seen as a human and taken seriously. Someone asked me why I always make things about race. Why am I so obsessed? It is because it is my lived experience. To have to second guess your every move as to not appear too aggressive, too loud, too political To be sharply dressed and still followed in a store. Be seen as uppity if I hold my tongue and radical if I express my opinion. It is burdensome. It is suffocating. This whole we’re all humans kumbaya stuff is cute but not a representation of real life race relations. Ferguson has put the subject of race on the table again and this time the world is listening. This should be a time of reflection, learning, sympathy, and discussion. I hope people keep on talking, because it’s not going away.